Why Does He Have to be So...???!!!

Love is...

... understanding that your husband is a man and, in addition to that, men are different from women.  I know... sounds obvious, right?  But if it's such an easy concept to comprehend, then why does our culture consistently, unrelentingly, want men to behave like women and then complain when they don't?

In addition to obvious physiological differences, men think differently, see differently, hear differently, emote differently, and so on.  Just because our culture worships the way women do these things, doesn't mean men are stupid (as is so often infuriatingly depicted on TV sitcoms).  They are just, as I said, different... and those differences are. not. wrong.  The sooner we ladies believe this and seek to understand our husbands' strengths and how those strengths complement our weaknesses, the sooner we will have peace in our homes.

Of course, part of the problem is, we don't really believe we have weaknesses, right?  That's not a very comfortable thought.  But admitting we are weak in certain areas isn't a bad thing and it does not mean there is something wrong with us.  We have strengths, too.  And our strengths complement our husbands' weaknesses.  Why do we think we should be strong in everything?  And how much sense does that make?  It's an obvious impossibility.

So, the next time you disagree with your husband on a particular issue and think he is absolutely crazy for seeing things the way he does, take a minute and consider that he may actually be right.  He may actually be stronger in that area than you are.  In your weakness, you can't see that.  It sure does feel like he's wrong.  But that feeling has absolutely nothing to do with whether you are actually right or not.  Give his perspective a chance.  You just might find out that he's right after all.